Are you constantly trying to change people?

“..work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” Philippians 2:12, ESV.

After a few relationship failures in my life, it finally occurred to me what the problem was; I was constantly trying to change people. I didn’t know how to love and accept people just the way they are—flaws and all. When God opened my eyes to how I was behaving, I felt like a huge puddle on the floor. My pride and self-righteous attitude was exposed, and now I had to deal with myself. Don’t let your relationships be ruined because you want people to be more like you.

You can’t change:

• How people feel
• How they respond
• What they think
• What they believe
• How they love
• How they live their life

However, you can change:

• How you feel
• How you respond
• What you think
• What you believe
• How you love
• How you live your life

Don’t spend so much time trying to change people, their feelings, their mind, their moods, their life, or their habits. God didn’t call us to change anyone. That’s His job. We have a hard enough time trying to change our own selves, let alone someone else. Accept people the way they are and let God do the rest. Focus on what you can do, which is work on you. The more someone see your life improving for the better and the more they see you walking in humility, the more they may be inspired to change.

Prayer: Father God, I ask that you kill my pride. Completely crush it. I don’t want anything to do with self-righteousness. I humble myself. I’m nobody apart from you. You reached down and you rescued me from a pit. Any change that’s taken place in my life, you did it. You helped me, and you’re still helping me. You’ve turned my life around. Please forgive me for anytime I didn’t love who you love, or accept who you’ve accepted. Help me Lord. Do what only you can do in the lives of those around me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

20 thoughts on “Are you constantly trying to change people?”

  1. Lord Jesus by Your Divine intervention you have stepped in to rescue us ;when we are confused you give clear directions, with confirmation. . When we are blinded by our own thoughts and ideas you shine the light on Your word to bring clarity and guidance to our path.Thank you for making everything clear. That we may enjoy the victorious life you paid such a high price for.🙏📖👸

  2. Thank you Lord!!! I so needed to hear this today. Help me Lord to trust You to do what only You can do!!!

  3. It is not my job to change anyone.That’s the job of the Holy Spirit. Lord, help me to crucify the flesh and let God be God. Amen!

  4. Yes Lord help me to love others right where they’re at. So hard at times with someone close, like my son. Oh Holy Spirit help me to trust you to do the work. ♡

    1. Thank Lord. . .& bless you for your comment. . .I am struggling with two sons that literally hate me because they say I judge them. . .

    2. I was just talking to my granddaughter bout this very.thing. I am very.guilty.of this. I pray that I can begin to change this about myself.

  5. Thank you God for speaking to me just morning. I have told a friend these words to let God change people and to just live life right and to keep loving there self and God because God will do the rest accepted it. Thank you again for the words I have learned over the years of my life to let God work with them. So I’m trusting God myself and I feel peace around me My God my God thank you

  6. Yasssss JESUS👑 Only you can do the change in others, I will continue to Love on them and Keep them Uplifted in Prayer ❗🙏🙏🙏💓💕💘💌

    I know what it feels like firsthand to be torture to change, but each time my Loveone had that pride and a real bad attitude *BLESS HER SWEET SWEET HEART LORD* she also laid that pride down too❗🎁🎉💝I knew inside her Heart she only wanted the best for me❗†📖💡🏃🏃

    …But it ran me so far from the Lord and Church , however it helped me to know better, I vowed I never wanted to hurt nobody and put guilt on them…🙋to bring them to CHRIST JESUS👑instead I TRUST GOD TO DO THAT CHANGE IN MY CHILDREN and FRIENDS because only HE CAN ❗🙏🙏🙏 I AM THANKFUL… I HAD A VERY LOVING and POWERFUL PRAYING GRANDMOTHER, who LOVED and Trained me Up…and I came back to JESUS 👑Just in the Nick of time!!! 😄🙏🙌💯PRAISE THE LORD ❗💃💃💃💃DOTK🌷🌹💐Thank you so much, this hit so close to home, with MATTERS OF THE HEART❗💯
    I LOVE YALL ❗SHINEON 💡🏆🍒🍇🍉🍓🍍

  7. Thank you Jesus for gving this word to the author of todays devotional….My God this was a word for me! It really opened my eyes & how I respond to people…God not only looks @ the person but he looks @ how your respond…So Father I ask you to mold me in the likeness of your son Jesus & search my heart that’s not of him..I can’t change other’s but I can strive to mk me a better person & pleasing in your eyesight…God forgive me for my thoughts, words or deeds toward other’s….I ask that in your son Jesus holy name if this is your will for my life.

  8. Amen. May God bless us to love and serve as He did and does, changing the world by allowing ourselves to look more and more like Him.

  9. Hallelujah Glory to God . This was going through my mind for a long time but the right words came this morning through Daughters of the King well spoken and written. Thank You Lord Jesus for the confirmation. Blessings and I am going to share with others blessings always Amen

  10. Yes Lord… thank You so much for speaking to heart this morning, please help me to love whom You’ve loved and whom You’ve accepted in Jesus name Amen… thank you ma’am for availing yourself for God our Father to use you this way! keep it up ma’am…… I am Elizabeth from Ghana…..

  11. A few days late but this was so needed. I thank you Lord for accepting me and I am praying that my friends and family members can see your goodness, and be inspired to invite you into their life. Please continue to help me to learn to accept and let God. Thank you Father.

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