“May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy” Colossians 1:11, ESV.
He never takes me out
He doesn’t help out around the house
He never listens to me
He is always spending time with his friends
He never apologizes
He doesn’t make me feel appreciated
In being married for years and in counseling women, I have heard it all. I have said it all, and I’ve found the list can go on and on.
One day while trying to patch up a broken marriage, I told the wife to write down everything her husband was doing wrong. Her page was covered, front and back, with a long list of things. Then, I asked her to write down everything he’s doing right. It took her a long time to think of just one.
We can’t focus on the good when there’s unforgiveness in our hearts.
I remember one day I struggled to pray. Right in the middle of my prayer, I sensed unforgiveness in my heart and without much thought, I said, “Lord, I forgive my husband.” The moment I forgave him, I felt a release in my heart. Then God gave me the grace to love him and be patient with him. God sees and He knows when you have unforgiveness and resentment in your heart, and He won’t release His grace until you release your unforgiveness. It’s time to let go of all the hurt and disappointment you’ve been holding on to. It’s not worth your relationship with God, and it’s not worth your relationship with those you care about.
Instead of thinking all day on what your husband is doing wrong, think about what he is doing right.
He is a hard worker
He does what he can to help around the house
He has a relationship with God
He calls me to see how I’m doing
He lets me have the last slice of pie
He is trying to do better
Let it go and focus on the good.
Prayer: Father God, I thank you for speaking directly to my heart. Forgive me Lord as I forgive others. I let go of all unforgiveness, resentment and offense, and I receive your grace, your peace and your love. Help me learn how to communicate what’s bothering me, and be patient. Help me focus on the good. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
(Read Philippians 4:8)