Respect matters to him.

“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” Ephesians 5:33, ESV.

I come from a long history of women that are argumentative and combative. Women who are quick to speak their mind and make you feel like it’s either their way or the highway. They are sharp-tongued, and it doesn’t take much to set them off. But a lot of the women in my family are also divorced or had long relationships that ended badly. Every now and then, in my marriage, I see that same spirit try to rise up in me with my husband. Sometimes I’ve let it get the best of me, but thankfully, God has helped me learn His wisdom and learn His ways of doing things. 

My sister, here’s some wisdom… 

If your husband ever says he felt disrespected by something you said or did, listen to him. Don’t become defensive, and don’t give any excuses for your actions or reasons why. Don’t use it as an opportunity to say, “Well, I felt disrespected too when you…” Look him in the eyes with sincerity in your voice and say, “I understand that you feel disrespected by what I said. I understand you feel disrespected by what I did, and I apologize for disrespecting you,” and leave it there. 

As a woman of God, you have a decision to make every time your husband opens his heart to you. You can choose to be combative and fight with him, or you can listen to him and be understanding. You get to decide how you will respond. 

Prayer: Father God, forgive me for every time I’ve disrespected and dishonored the man you’ve placed in my life. Help me, Lord. Teach me how to be a loving and understanding wife, not a combative wife that has to get my way. Help me learn your wisdom and your way of doing things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

(Read James 1:19; Proverbs 31:11; Proverbs 14:1)

10 thoughts on “Respect matters to him.”

  1. Thank you for this word of wisdom. I too come from a family of vocal opinionated women. I read some time ago that it is easier to humble yourself before God than it is to humble yourself before man. Personally I realized this to be true in my relationship with my husband. However, over the years my LORD taught me the importance of asking my husband for forgiveness for those times I did not respect or respond to him in a way that honored God and him. This summer we celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary!! Praise the Lord!💞👆🌸💮💙💕

  2. I thank God for giving me wisdom. He told me years ago to make my home a peace haven and He told me what to do.

  3. My Holy Father thank you for your guidance in my life. Whan I was first married I would always have complaining matches about my husband with my girlfriends. After I got saved the Lord spoke to my heart and told me to praise my husband to see him as He saw him with mercy and Grace. We are imperfect both of us. But even with that the Lord still uses us showing us True Love. I love you Jesus ❤️💙 💙🙏💙💙 amen

  4. Thank You Heavenly Father for always giving me what I need. 🙌🏽 I thank You for sending me the BEST HUSBAND IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD🙌🏽👏🏽😁 I had to learn to think before I said something to him, that would be disrespectful. We both had to learn to be each other support team, It was no BIG I’s and Small U’s..🙌🏽 We are respectful to each other, I never ever want to make him feel less of a man, If he is the head of our house whole, I want to respect him, encourage him, and motivate him to be his BEST 🙌🏽👏🏽, because if he is at peace, loving God, supporting our family, than I can humble myself and respect him. This wasn’t always the case, I didn’t want nobody to tell me what I could do, how I could do it, are anything, but I have been with him for 34 years, and we have it together now🙌🏽👏🏽💃😁♥️🙏🏽 PRAISE GOD 🙌🏽 HALLELUJAH 🙌🏽… Thank You God for my WONDERFUL BLESSED HUSBAND🙌🏽👏🏽💃😁♥️🙏🏽💪🏽😇💯 CHARLOTTE & Larry❤️♥️💞

  5. Hi Nesie,
    I would love for our home to be a peace haven, as yours is. We’ve been married many years but do not love and respect each other most of the time.
    I would really appreciate your Godly advice Nesie.
    Gratefully,
    Karen M.S.

  6. Amen..Amen..Amen..Lord I THANK YOU for this Blessed & Teaching Word that I BELIEVE & RECEIVE in Your Holy, Mighty, Righteous & Precious Name..Amen🙏🏾 Well as we’ve been told or heard MANY times…”When you know better you do better” I’ve been divorced for 20 yrs., & I’ll be the 1st to admit I had a GOOD HUSBAND! I just wasn’t ready for marriage. I have NO REGRETS, just pure & honest thankfulness for the growth & lessons learned.
    I’ve learned sooo MUCH about myself & just how I am to submit to my mate, not because of control or fear, but respect, that goes both ways..I TRULY BELIEVE…Happy Spouse Happy House…NOT just Happy Wife Happy Life….
    Lord PLEASE CONTINUE To Bless & Shine Your Light Of Love Upon Your Obedient Servant Sister Kesha, Her Awesome Team, This AMAZING MINISTRY, My Sister Felicia & My DOTK Sisters/Family💖!
    Be Blessed, Stay Humble & Encouraged!!
    Love ALWAYS, Your DOTK Sister In Christ, Wendy💕🌺

  7. Tough words and true. Sadly, many of us live with men who feel so entitled to “respect ” that they are abusive. They demand a level of respect that is actually worship. Even then they are not satisfied but use various forms of abuse to get the “respect” they crave. We can watch our words, apologize and try our utmost to walk in respect but still take whiplash for our “disrespect”. Please be careful my sisters to apologize when God tells you to and not out of fear of abuse. That is not of God. You are precious!!

  8. What do u do when ur husband does not provide like he should does not pay bills wants everything free and is an alcoholic and does not want help and proud to b a alcohic begs and won’t work (a believer who needs a word)

    1. Sister, there are no easy answers. I highly recommend you check out Leslie Vernick’s resources. She is a Godly source who deals with all this from a solid, scriptural view. I believe you will start to find answers and help there. Blessings today.

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