A Rooftop Woman

“It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than to share a house with a disagreeing, quarrelsome, and scolding woman” Proverbs 25:24, Amplified.

Let’s pause and think about that for a moment.

The truth is, when we are slamming doors, holding silent treatments, throwing dishes, withholding sex, calling up all of our friends to vent about our spouses, this is rooftop behavior. When our spouses and loved ones would prefer to be on the rooftop than in the same house with us, that says something about us. It’s cold and uncomfortable on the roof. It’s unsafe up there. But that’s where people would rather be when they’re constantly being nagged, fought with, and scolded for every little thing. Come on my sisters! God didn’t create us to be that way!

God wants you to be the kind of woman that a man enjoys being around. To where he would rather be no where else than with you. How do we do that? We allow God to grow us up, and we let Him help us face the truth about ourselves so we can change.

Declare this from your heart today: “I will not behave like a childish rooftop woman. That’s not who I am. No matter how frustrated I get, God will help me control my tongue and control my emotions. No more acting like I have no sense. I am a woman of God. I respect myself too much to allow anyone or anything to get me out of God’s peace. In Jesus name!”

“But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:4 (AMP)

11 thoughts on “A Rooftop Woman”

  1. You know, when my husband’s “stuff” was exposed, I had to stand up, call him out, and set boundaries with consequences. He didn’t like it. He accused me of being controlling, and generally a “roof-top” woman. The truth was that he didn’t like or want to be called out, exposed, and confronted. Some years later, he thanks me. Stuff is still being dealt with but now he wants to be home with me and no longer sees me as his enemy. Avoiding being a “roof-top ” woman does not mean staying silent on sin but instead setting firm, loving boundaries which, yes, may be misunderstood but lead to life. Blessings sisters!

  2. How do you deal with one always pointing out various faults of mine..but i continue to adjust and pray an lift my husband up..but how much is enough…when i voice my concerns and what i need help with..them im tripping.menoupause is oh so new and im being stretched soooo thin

    1. Peace & Blessings Marisa,
      As your DOTK Sister, to answer your question, read Sister Alisa’s testimony!! If you’ve already read it..READ IT AGAIN!!! It’s NOT about being passive/submissive or
      argumentative..it’s about setting somesome….
      BOUNDARIES!!!
      Talk to the Lord, He ALREADY knows, He’s just waiting on YOU! Talk to Him, tell Him what’s going on in your life, what YOU want from the situation, (be prepared for HIS ANSWER what WE want is NOT always God’s plan for us!)
      Now Thank Him in advance for whatever it is He’s going to do!
      Be Blessed, Stay Humble & Encouraged!!!
      Read today’s devotional!!
      Love, Your DOTK Sister In Christ, Wendy💖

    2. Peace & Blessings Marisa,
      You’re on the right path by Praying & lifting your Husband up…but only YOU will know when ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!! Ask the Lord for GUIDANCE!!
      Be Blessed, Stay Humble & Encouraged!!!
      Love Your DOTK Sister In Christ, Wendy💖

  3. Both of you previous ladies Marisa B and Alicia C speak volumes. And I agree with both. I am currently single because every man that I’ve come across obviously wasn’t the one for me. But those old tendencies would come up whenever I would see something I didn’t like. So this is one that I’m going to be very real full of and not hold resentment towards God when he changes my mind about a certain individual. Sometimes I’m all wrapped up into a person and then I think things are going great and then something little happens and I my God why he’s a good guy. But he knows better than I will ever know in my entire existence. Thank you ladies for your Insight.

  4. Thank YOU my LORD FATHER GOD. I Thank YOU for YOUR Word regardless the situation with my husband and I. I Thank YOU that YOU bring me to a place of oneness in YOU. Continue to mold me with YOUR WORD Of truth that I may humble my self before YOU in righteousness I LOVE YOU my LORD. Forgive me for all the times I’ve failed and was that roof top woman. I know there will be more challenges So Please continue to lead me into YOUR righteousness granting me YOUR Strength Courage Wisdom and Spiritual gifts to help me walk as I should walk as YOUR Daughter of the KING. Thank YOU I long to be a Virtuous Woman in YOUR Glorious Mighty Beautiful Name LORD JESUS CHRIST AMEN. LOVE YOUR Daughter Chrissy. Thank You my Sister Keisha DOTK Ministrie LOVE And You are Blessed ALOHA Always Sister Chrissy

  5. My my my, what an awesome word of encouragement .I thank God for d peace and a still tongue when my husband is a rooftop man til God step in after prayer and move the pouting,anger,silent treatments, slamming doors, etc. I’m so greatful to have God in my life because I couldn’t live a second without him I love you Jesus from the bottom of my heart to the Dept’s of my soul.

  6. Amen..Amen..Amen!!! Thank You Lord, I was NEVER a “rooftop” Woman..I can’t take arguing, slamming doors, withholding sex(I feel that’s sooo childish) & I surely wasn’t breaking up MY/OUR “dishes/stuff”(I/we’ve worked to hard for what we had)..I’ve been “happily divorced” now for 19 years! And I’ll be the FIRST to admit, I had a REALLY, REALLY GOOD HUSBAND!! He was a True Provider & Protector of his family..I went into the marriage with a two year old, whom he adopted. Everything was lovely, on the outside. It was ME! I wasn’t in love with him! We were great friends, as Husband & Wife, but I just couldn’t give him what he deserved, my heart, mind, body or soul wasn’t in it! We went to High School together, knew of one another, but weren’t friends back then, then our paths crossed again. My child’s father had died when she was three weeks old, so when I met my Ex-Husband he fit the bill..Respectable, Willing to go to Church with me, NO children, GREAT JOB, Humble & might I add he was REAL EASY ON THE EYES!!! Just an all around GOOD GUY..A REAL “GOOD CATCH”..but, my heart wasn’t in it! I tried for 8 1/2 years, i kept saying to myself..”eveventually you’ll fall in love with him”..nope, it never happened! Why hold up someone’s life of you’re not REALLY into them? Not really into the marraige? I couldn’t do it any more, I asked for a divorce. I used to question myself, did I do the right thing? Should I have stayed longer? Maybe my heart would have changed..I had to stop questioning myself & Trust what I did..I don’t know if I want to get married again, but, I do know I WILL follow the Lord next time! I will NOT marry for “convience”..I will NOT be selfish & only think about the “benefits” of being married..I WILL BE IN LOVE WITH THE RIGHT GOD FEARING MAN..THE NEXT TIME!!
    May God CONTINUE To Bless & Shine His Light Of Love Upon Sister Keisha & Her Wonderful Team, This Awesome Ministry & My DOTK Sisters/Family!!
    Love Always Your DOTK Sister In Christ, Wendy💕

  7. Amen Thank you God for allowing this devotio. But I’m not a rooftop woman I love and have peace and my heart love but the truth is that my spouse was rooftop but I pray and let God work that why I can say I have peace and my heart Amen again Thank you God and May Glory continue to Bless this Ministry and the name of Jesus Amen

  8. Thank you for the ministry..I am in a roof top situation.Being blamed and accused of cheating Everytime someone calls me or whenever a guy looks at me.He has blocked all my make friends on my phone and social media.I feel like a prisoner in my own home.I sleep in the corner of my bed with my 3 yr old between us.
    I want my child to grow up with 2 parents but I am in a corner defending my self for stuff I have never done.I have never cheated on him or given him any reason to think that.I have never had lunch or coffee with any man since the day I met my husband.
    Yes I call my best friend and tell her where I am or what happened because I am afraid that if something does happen to me , someone will speak up.
    Iam not sure what to do.

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