“Just as Death and Destruction are never satisfied, so human desire is never satisfied.” Proverbs 27:20
Since I was a young girl, masturbation has been a real struggle for me. You would think that because I’ve been married to an amazing man of God for 22 years who satisfies me greatly, that any desire to please myself would vanish. No, the enemy still tries because he knows human desire is never satisfied. Never. I remember a time I gave in to it and the next thing you know I found myself shopping online for a dildo. Holy Spirit spoke to me and said, “A dildo is idolatry because you are looking to an object to do what I created your husband to do for you.” A dildo will have you thinking why do I even need a man? And that’s exactly the enemy’s goal. I repented and recommitted myself to the Lord.
The world says masturbation is okay, but it’s not okay. When we give our bodies over to what it wants when it wants it, we show a lack of self-control. Taking care of ourselves, whether by hand or an object, it confuses our entire system because that is not how God created us to be gratified. It can be damaging psychologically without us knowing it because it enters our psyche that we don’t need a man to take care of us sexually, that we are “good.” The enemy wants us depending on anything but God and His way. God is stronger than our desires, my sister. At our weakest point, His strength is made perfect in us.
God is helping me to walk this out daily. Resisting sin on the left and on the right. Completely running away from lusts I’ve dealt with since childhood. Some days I look down at my girly members and say, “You better line up right now, in Jesus’ name. Settle down! We’re not doing that!” Most nights I listen to anointed worship and the Bible while I sleep, and watch scripture videos during the day. I’ve had to communicate with my husband about any struggles and educate him even more about my body. Doing whatever I have to do to make sure I’m practicing what I preach.
As long as we’re on this side of heaven, we need the strength of God helping us to walk this out. We need the grace of God to show ourselves loads of grace and compassion.
Declare with me today, “Father, I refuse to be bound another day to sexual sin. I receive the freedom I have in Christ. I command my body to line up right now. I reject the enemy’s lies that tell me I can take better care of myself sexually than a man can. I reject the lie that tells me God won’t provide what I long for. I rebuke the spirit of lust and perversion, and I submit to the Spirit of God only. My body belongs to God, and He will produce in me the godly characteristic of self-control. Because of Jesus, I am no longer a slave to sin. I am a servant of Christ and He will help me overcome in this area. I depend on Him and trust in His love and power. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
(Read 1 Corinthians 6:18; 2 Timothy 2:22-26; Romans 6:19; Philippians 2:13)
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Thank you Lord Jesus.
Need to know about this question: I am married for 35 years and I dislike oral sex. Because I don’t know if it a sin or not.
Please help
Thank you for sharing this. It truly spoke to me and helped me to see. I use struggle with sexual sins for years. To the point I got extremely angry if I wasn’t satisfied my way. Thanks be to God, He has delivered me from that and I am free. But this word really helped me.
Praise God sister for this powerful testimony of deliverance! Thank you for sharing. So many of us need to know we are not alone in overcoming this form of idolatry!
Make you continue to know God’s love, grace, and sanctified mercy you show to others! Love you sister.
Is it a sin to use a device when the husband is impotent because of a surgery he had to remove his prostate because of cancer?
It is still a sin. Like our sister said in the devotional we were made free in Christ and He no longer wants us to be slaves to sin. When we pray, we can use Philippians 2:12-13 and 2 Corinthians 12:9 as well as Philippians 4:19. This situation is hard, but God is still Holy and wants us to be Holy. We need to keep presenting ourselves to Him wholly and tell Him what our hardships and faults are and allow the light of His Word to keep transforming our darkness to light. There is freedom in Christ, from all forms of sin. I believe that.
Hi my sister, I sent an email to you to get more details about you and your husband’s health issues before responding. Please check your inbox. Thank you!
We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against different strata of wickedness targeted against the daughters of God . Born through Eve .
Not by power – self
Not by might – self
But by my Spirit- God
Every wicked ness operating in the heavenly lies, the unseen world and this dark world ; fighting against womanhood in different ways our sexuality -abortions, lesbianism,- adultery prostitution, masturbation, gender fluidity , depression, divorce etc be silenced and be bound hands and feet , cast into the abyss in Jesus mighty name amen
Thank you my Sister so much for sharing this message and the Sin that tries to entangle us, as I too struggle with the same! Had to resist just last night from masturbating!
The Lord Bless us and keep us, The Lord make his
face shine on us and be gracious to us the Lord turn his face toward us and give us peace”. I love you Sister and Thank GOD for you
This was a struggle of mine for years and I am so grateful God has delivered me!! Thank you for sharing and letting me know, I’m not alone!
Thanks so much for your faithfulness and honesty in the devotions because it helps to know true struggles exist but we must resist thank you women of God .
My God. Thank you Jesus. I just struggled with this sin this morning. I thank you my Sister because God knows us all and what our struggles are in this area of sin. Right on time word for me and others who have this same struggles. My Sister’s in Christ we will overcome this sin in the mighty name of Jesus Christ who died for our sins. Amen and Amen 🙏
Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable to share. I needed your openness so I could be open with myself first then to God. The enemy has used this tactic against me in my dreams but no more. Your words “I don’t need a man” spoke to my single heart. God created me to need a man and I have lied to myself for so long that I don’t need a man that a wrong door was opened. Whether single or married I will trust God with my feelings and my needs as a woman. Faithful is He who said He would supply all our needs! God bring freedom to all who struggle in this place!
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. You are helping so many women.
Blessings!
Lord I pray for my dear sister. She was bold and courageous to share her testimony. I pray you give her the grace to overcome and be all that you purposed her to be. Let no sin overtake her but rather may she be overwhelmed by your love and goodness. May you continue to work in and through her life greatly. In Jesus name I ask these things with thanksgiving. Amen 🙏🏾
I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE . Bless the Lord.
God has done a work in me in this area too. I have to continually remember to die to my flesh daily. Greater is the Lord in me than those in the world. Thank you. Blessings, Shalom and Agape 👀🙏🏽♥️📖🙌🏽
Praise God! Praise God! Praise God! Heavenly Father, thank you for the writers on Dotk app. I thank God, for the transparency of your testimony. God, has been so gracious with me and delivered me from so much, but I sometimes struggle as well. Jesus, said, I always cause my people to triumph in victory;. Thanks Be to God! In Jesus Name. AMEN
Amen! I recieve this message today.
Timely word, this is something I’ve been struggling with for years. I failed last night and woke up to this devotional. I hate that I don’t feel bad about doing this and hate repenting over and over again.
I have used your devotional as part of my morning Bible study plan for a long time but today I am appalled and shocked at what you wrote. I am not Trying to be critical, but I don’t think that is acceptable nor what God expects us to do if we’re going to counsel someone in this subject. This should be a private thing not something for the whole world to see. I’m very disappointed. I think you’re setting a bad example for young girls and older ones alike. I hope this makes you stop and think about what all you put out there for everyone to see because I just don’t think it’s necessary to get your point across like that , God sees God heals God loves and that’s what should be taught
My Sister in the book of James it says to confess your sins to one another. I know this is right on time but for some being transparent is not their cup of tea. So let’s not be so critical on what our Heavenly Father has place on His daughter’s heart to share with the daughter’s of the King because all struggled with something whether it is sexual immorality, lying or something even young girls. This is not for you then don’t respond. Let this devotion reach the ones that God intended for it reach and speak to their hearts. Remember sin is sin no matter how great or small it is. And the heart is the most wicked thing of all. Be bless my Sister.
Amen ! The Struggle is real and I am married as well my husband and I have trouble in our bedroom ……..🙄😮💨🤧🥹
I appreciate your transparency on today’s devotional, I struggle in this area as well. You’re Devotionals have helped me walk closer with Jesus in intimacy and obedience and i praise God for you! Keep doing what He has called you to do, you are changing lives for the glory of God! Be blessed my sister in Christ!
Ashley Dawn Singer
Actually, I very much APPRECIATE the transparency and honesty about topics like this!
There was nothing about this devotional’s topic meant to be upsetting or shocking—the fact is that it is a very real life struggle for MANY women of ALL ages… young women & teens included!
However, it is one of those ‘sin topics’ that is so shameful, shame-FILLED, (and worst of all), so SHAMED by others… that even admitting the struggle with it can become difficult to do.
Yet, like ANY other sin… knowing how to face it PROPERLY according to God’s Word is CRUCIAL!
So it NEEDS to be talked about!
It is in sharing the reality of our struggles and brokenness, (with tactfulness and grace), with each other that we can HELP other sisters of Christ with THEIR struggles. And the DOTK team has done this time and time again. (Which I know we are all grateful for!)
So I personally, applaud the way this topic was brought up—it was done in a very honest and real way—while still being very mindful and tactful.
So thank you DOTK team for being vulnerable with us.
We appreciate everything you do.
God Bless.
“As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another.”
Proverbs 27:17 NIV
Thank you, Stacy.
How does one handle this, without a husband?
Being separated for many years my old struggles seemed to creep back in. Going back into my marriage was a bad decision, but walking away felt just as bad. And being lonely made me feel like nothing I do is ever right. Here I’ve met a really tough struggle and I’m not getting younger to find someone. How do we heal that?? Is there space to talk about this, in church?
This is a struggle for divorced women or widows. Lord God help us overcome! Also, not sure if it’s wise for someone struggling with this to be in a public ministry
That hurt, but I forgive you, my sister.
Thank you I posted the comment before about public ministry and never intended it to be about Kesha. It was an honest question about my own ministry and feeling condemned and that I am unable to reach out and minister or participate in the worship team at my church. Kesha you are an incredible wonderful woman of God!!!
My sisters, I get a sense from the Spirit that it is necessary to gently remind everyone of some important Biblical truth:
Romans 7:15-25 BSB & Romans 8:1-11 BSB
Romans 7
15I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do. But what I hate, I do. 16And if I do what I do not want to do, I admit that the law is good. 17In that case, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
18I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh; for I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19For I do not do the good I want to do. Instead, I keep on doing the evil I do not want to do. 20And if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
21So this is the principle I have discovered: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22For in my inner being I delight in God’s law. 23But I see another law at work in my body, warring against the law of my mind and holding me captive to the law of sin that dwells within me.b
24What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25Thanks be to God, through Jesus Christ our Lord!
So then, with my mind I serve the law of God, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.
Romans 8
1Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.a 2For in Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set youb free from the law of sin and death. 3For what the law was powerless to do in that it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful man, as an offering for sin.c He thus condemned sin in the flesh, 4so that the righteous standard of the law might be fulfilled in us, who do not walk according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.
5Those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh; but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. 6The mind of the flesh is death, but the mind of the Spirit is life and peace, 7because the mind of the flesh is hostile to God: It does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so. 8Those controlled by the fleshd cannot please God.
9You, however, are controlled not by the flesh, but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. 10But if Christ is in you, your body is dead because of sin, yet your spirit is alivee because of righteousness. 11And if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, He who raised Christ Jesus from the deadf will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit, who lives in you.
I want to gently remind all of my sisters in Christ of these chapters/verses… particularly the verse in Romans 8:5—
Those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh; but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit.
Our sister, Kesha, sets her mind on the Spirit DAILY, my sisters! (She even mentioned how she does so daily WITHIN this particular devotional regarding this topic!)
It isn’t about the fact that she, (or anyone in life OR in public ministry!), struggles with sin TRYING to enter their life… it’s that they ACTIVELY FIGHT AGAINST IT by keeping their minds set on the things of the Spirit because they KNOW it’s the only way to defeat the sinful struggles of the flesh.
THAT’S what Jesus did for us!
And our sister Kesha, has shown (and shared) time and time again in this ministry how THAT is exactly what she does… leans on God for help to get through this life.
That’s why this ministry is so powerful and reaches so many women.
This ministry is a blessing and we should be sure to keep that in mind. Yes sisters?
Love to all.
Bless you, Stacy! Your comment truly blessed me!
I’m so glad! I feel blessed and encouraged by your words ALL THE TIME, so it gives me joy to know my words were able to do that for you! 🙂
Like I had said in my earlier post on this matter:
“As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another.”
Proverbs 27:17 NIV
Keep being the amazing woman of God that you are! 😀
Thank you I posted the comment before about public ministry and never intended it to be about Kesha. I was an honest question about my own ministry and feeling condemned and that I am unable to reach out and minister or participate in the worship team at my church. Kesha is an incredible wonderful woman of God!!!
Thank you for being so transparent about such a real thing. The testimony is a beautiful example of surrender even over the things that we don’t deem as significant as other sins.
I appreciate your transparency on this subject. Years ago I too had struggled in this area as well. But by the grace of God I learned it was from the enemy. Your honesty and obedience to Jesus Christ has really helped me to walk in my calling. Thank you for always being truthful, and obedience. I praise God for you! Keep being who you’re A obedient daughter of the king, who is a phenomenal servant of the Lord and true to her calling. You are changing lives for the glory of God! Continued Favor to you and your family. Be Blessed Sister!♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for being honest and bringing this subject to light. There are many questions that we don’t have the answers for. The Bible is a teaching book. We will never understand all it. Who ever wrote this was trying to get her clear answer from God to others. We all have questions that we don’t have the answers for. I would rather get my answers from God in church than out on the streets.
Dear sweet Kesha… Omgosh, thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about this sensitive matter. I too have found myself under conviction of sin in this realm… I’m older, so have little interest anymore anyway , it’s getting easier and easier to turn away from this practice and rely solely on the love of God for each and every need that I have.
And since we’re being honest, please pray for me, I often feel the conviction of sin for being a pot head for 50 years now! Father helped me survive a 20 year methamphetamine addiction many many years ago. I never liked alcohol ( killed my drug buzz), and even quit cigs two years ago this month after smoking all my life! I think this is as good as it gets for me and life is grand!!! Father takes care of me like no other and I did tell our CR leader the other day that I’m as clean as I get , and Jesus is ok with it!!! I love you sister!!