Living with someone you’re not married to will take you down a road you don’t want to go down. At first it will appear like everything’s ok even though you know deep down it’s not God’s way. The Word of God says, “there’s pleasure in sin for a season (Hebrews 11:25).” After the pleasurable season is up, then comes the heartbreaking effects of sin that leads to a broken home. It’s best to do things God’s way so you can be pleasing to the Father and live a blessed life. Understand it won’t ever be right until we do right.
This is so true. It happen to me. Thank You Lord for rescuing me. Amen
Me too. God is NOT a cosmic killjoy. He created us so He knows what’s best for us. Thank you Daddy God!!
Very true! God’s way are so much better then our own. God, being us to that place where your way is the only option!
N Jesus Name!
I have been in similiar situations before Jesus touched my heart. Once you honestly love Him, you will do whatever it takes to please Him. Search your heart today and ask for His strength to do what you know is the right thing.
Amen soo!!! True.
Thank you because I am sitting asking God and myself How do I go about leaving this relationship. It’s not abusive. I just know it’s not right in the site of God. I will ask his help and strength.
this was me about eight months ago. I found myself in love and living with a man who fit my bill perfectly EXECPT for two major things: different religion and didnt want to marry. Countless times the Holy Spirit would convict me but I would suppress Him. We lived like we were married; bills, holidays with family, vacations… the only way out for me was to ask God for the strength to leave and never return. (some thought I was crazy). I also asked my god-mother, a pray warrior and whom I knew WOULD –to pray with me. It didnt come as I thought but I am no longer living outside of God’s will for my life and the weight of my disobedience has been lifted. Thank you Father for breaking me free from that particular bondage of sin.
Same here. Moved in with my ex- husband two months after we were together, then a year or so later, we married. So many bad things happed, we divorced and now he is living in sin with my ex- friend/hairdresser. They are engaged but living in sin and going to the church I attend.
This is sooooo true for me too!! Thank you God because as painful as it was you took me out of that sin!
Hi,
This is true and beautiful BUT I am pregnant and living with my babies dad. I tried to leave but he wanted to be here for us and wanted to be with me but I kept feeling uneasy but when I decided to stay back in November I no longer struggle with staying in Gods word, reading to my son and obstaining from sexual things I even asked him to pray n read with us. So what should I do now? Leave before my baby boy arrives?
I believe if you do what God says, you will be covered. Whether he’s the father of your child or not, you are still living in sin. Please don’t leave the door open for the enemy to wreak havoc on your life. If this man is for you, he will marry you. Your relationship with God the Father is more important than your relationship with that man. I pray sister, that you choose Jesus as He has chosen you. We will meet in heaven….God Bless you and your family, and may God turn your boyfriend to Himself with a pure heart.
Work towards making things right. Pray that God will touch his heart and that he will receive Jesus is his Lord and Savior.
LORD GOD, I THOUGHT IT WAS ALL GOOD, I THOUGHT I WAS HAPPY ALL GOOD…..BUT I FOOLED NO ONE BUT MYSELF 2 YEARS LATER I ENDURED SO MUCH PAIN AND HURT, & ONLY U FATHER REMOVED ME COMPLETELY OUT THAT SITUATION! THANK YOU “FATHER”
I love these hard truths; they keep us accountable. More of You LORD and less of the world!
My God is it truly the truth it happen to me as well but I thank him for his grace and tender mercy!!! Hallelujah
Praise God for this message this morning. I’ve experienced just that in that order..I thank God for his wisdom giving to me to now live alone with my five children and depend on nothing but Jesus for providing for me and my family. Thank you sister
I’ve been with a man for 7 years lived with him for three moved out into my own place just thought about getting married to him but the truth is that I don’t think that I will be happy I know that God will provide all my needs if I trust him right now I’m dealing with emotions. Lord help me in Jesus name to help me wait on you
This is crazy I moved out because of control emotional abuse I have 4 grown children this man seems to have a problem with my relationship between my children I have a grown son who lives with me and and does not like him Lord I need your help I need your direction I need your strength and your power Lord I need to see your face. I’m standing in the need of prayer.
GM ISLEY….IN THE NAME OF JESUS FATHER I LIFT UP MY SISTER TO U LORD TO GIVE HER PEACE IN HER MIND SOUL AND SPIRIT FATHER….ITS HARD WHEN WEVE BEEN EMOTIONALLY HHRT LORD BUT YOU ARE A GOD OF COMFORT.YOU ARE A GOD OF HEALING.AND . GOD WHO LOVE S US UNCONDITIONALLY NO MATTER WHAT CHOICES WE HAVE MADE IN OUR LIVES..FATHER WE ASK THAT U GIVE HER WISDOM SO THAT SHE WILL KNOW WHAT YOUR WILL IS FOR HER LIFE FATHER….AND FOR STRENTGH AND COURAGE LORD ..THAT WITH YOUR STRENGTH SHE WILL CONTINUE TO STAND FIRM AND SEEK YOU DILIGENTLY IN EVERY SITUATION IN HER LIFE….I SPEAK LOVE INTO HER LORD…YOUR AGAPE LOVE FOR THERE IS NO LOVE GREATER THEN YOURS LORD…JUST EMBRACE HER RIGHT NOW RIGHT WHERE SHE IS LET HER FEEL YOUR PRESENCE LORD ..IN THE NAME OF JESUS …AMEN
รmen my sister
Trust God, I was in a similar situation, then I realized that I loved this man more than God. I then decided that I would no longer act like a wife to a man, that couldn’t honor me with marriage. I had to be true to myself first. He moved out, and we have remained friends. We do love each other and we are starting to study the bible together. He keeps his hands to himself, and I do the same. If God wants us to be married it will be at his time. I’m praying for you, to God be the glory.
LESLY FORGIVE ME I SPELLED YOUR NAME WRONG…. I PUT ISLEY FORGIVE ME
Sounds like we are in the same boat.
Good morning Lesley I’ve been there too. My husband had an issue with my son too when we all lived together, I prayed and God rescued me, my husband and I are separated and I’m doing fine, and so is my son! Trust our Father in heaven to fix it for you ๐
I pray for you my sister. But as a woman that was married to a man 30 years he had issues with my children and believe me it doesn’t get any better . Trust God and be on your own. I finally divorced two and a half years ago and God has provided for me. Do not let your children be hurt or traumatized buy this emotional verbal abuse.
I just got out of a relationship exactly like that …December is when he left …we were to be married and I asked God to show me if I was marrying the right man….he showed me but I did not heed to his warnings …I kept saying it will work out after we’re married. I decided to tell him we need to fix the issues at hand before we got married. One day he came home and flipped out over money and movie tickets. He decided to knive my couches , break my antiques, bleach all my clothes , all because he lost control … I am thanking God for showing me …he done more but all the material things he ruined means nothing for I am happy building a closer relationship with God !
I understand your emotions, but just know whatever you are going through is nothing compared with if you had stayed in the relationship. God is faithful He will come through for you!
Just be still and know that God loves you more than anyone could ever try or claim to.
Lord help us all…Im dealing with this as well…i feel trapped and i have no where to run…so im praying…hoping…and believing that you will come on your time…not anyone else’s….Help us all lord see the light at the end of the tunnel….
I say to you sister make sure you’re ready to go when you see that light at the end of the tunnel, because God is light in darkness. And we have to be willing to truly trust him step out with nothing and just go. I pray that you be strong enough to just go. Because I truly wasted years t making excuses that it wasn’t God, I had to be a Godly woman and just stay there, we all know the excuses we make, but be ready when the light shine.
I pray God will help you and give you strenght. Amen
Wait on God and He will always be there for you and never let you down. God is your source and He will take care of you. Prayers for you my sister.
Amen god is able.
Amen and GOD BLESS YOU
I’m in this consequence, now – married because of my choice to live together first. It feels difficult. God, will show me the way!
He will Always help us. Even when we make wrong choices, if we ask Him And Truly Allow Him To, Because He Loves us. God Blesses you Always. Seek His Help. He is With you.
Thank you for what you wrote. I need his help now. I have not allowed God to help me get out of this sinful relationship. I will need to move and uproot my life. It will be hard and I will feel afraid. I need God’s help to right the wrong in my life.
Maybe you need to move away.
Amen
I am so grateful for this message this morning God is Real! This is my current circumstance although we’re getting married Aug 2016, I just ask my sister to pray that God has his hand on the both of us & stay @ the head of our relationship & marriage. In Jesus name I pray amen.
Ramona, you still need to move out and do the right thing before the wedding in August! It is hard but it is the right thing to do. You will be surprised what the LORD might open your eyes to see.
I say to you sister make sure you’re ready to go when you see that light at the end of the tunnel, because God is light in darkness. And we have to be willing to truly trust him step out with nothing and just go. I pray that you be strong enough to just go. Because I truly wasted years t making excuses that it wasn’t God, I had to be a Godly woman and just stay there, we all know the excuses we make, but be ready when the light shine.
Ramona God will!!
Amen. You need to move out and pray that this is what God has for you.
Yes he is
Yes he will
I will pray for God to be in your marriage. If you ask he will forgive you and give you peace, love a joy. He is able to do exceedingly above what we ask or think.
Amen I agree with this I am going to continue to please the Lord and wait on my boaz
Amen, Me Too!!
Amen amen. If he has one for you. Your time will come.
I lived with a guy who I was engaged to for 1 1/2 year. I felt the spirit of conviction the entire time. One Sunday, we woke up and decided he didn’t want to be with me anymore, so he started and arguement over a church program. He was so mean. I had just retired from the military, my oldest son was deployed overseas and my youngest is still 8 years old. He’s not their father. But I had just moved to Virginia with him weeks prior, then I had to uproot and move again on the day of the arguement. 22 years of military ended, fiance no longer wanted me and had to uproot and move again. This was 10 months ago. The first 7 months were rough. Cried myself to sleep every night with Charles Stanley, Joel Osteen, Joyce Meyer, and Creflo Dollar in my headset. And also set up a prayer closet. I’m doing fine today and would not have made it if it weren’t for the grace and mercy of Christ. Don’t live with a man out of wedlock. If he loves you, he will wait. Trust me. Stay on your knees praying, it works. Trust me my sisters in Christ, it works! In the name of Jesus
You All Are A Real Help And Encouragement!!
Wow, this my reality. Im taking steps to make it right. God’s way is the only way
Oooohhh I just needed this. I’m in a similar situation, God have mercy on me before you coma back. Thank You Jehovah!
Thank you Lord through my sister for this conviction. I was for the longest while this message to someone who is very close to me. So now I will pray stronger for conviction to get to the person’s heart.
yes I totally see where you’re coming from on that. I often share devotions from my doct with someone and have encouraged them to download the app on their phone I sure hope they have. so I’ve spoken with them and pray for them daily. May they will open their eyes their heart their lives to follow the way of Christ. Not waiting on someone else to make the first move
I have been in similiar situations before Jesus touched my heart. Once you honestly love Him, you will do whatever it takes to please Him. Search your heart today and ask for His strength to do what you know is the right thing.
I needed this..we didnt live together but i put him before Him..only God could cause our break up so I could truly see what kind of man he was/is.. Ill wait on God this time around.
Thank you Father
For your word of truth.
I am married but in 2yrs my husband and I have never lived in the same household or shared the same address ever! I’m seeking divorce now because of irreconcilable differences plus he’s in a federal prison I’m raising 5 children and God just sent my help. Although we love one another (new person) God’s will is important for my life, for our lives. I’m Seeking his face and direction but I encourage all of you on today. May God’s strength, wisdom, peace of mind, security, and abundance be upon your lives on today!
I have been in many of those relationships and they all ended badly. Even both my marriages with God in them. I finished a 100 day alcohol rehab program December 12, 2015, that was Faith based and came out a completely new woman. I found out “How” to pray to God for the right man to be delivered and God brought me a Godly man. We have been together almost 2 months, talking about marriage, know this is “FOREVER” and God is given All the glory every day! We pray together and for each other and always, always communicate about everything! We never give up because God gave us this!! Thank you Father for this Love Story for life!
My question is, i live with my fiance his 2 kids and my son. We are not intimate at all. Wont be until were married. Is that still wrong? My son and i are not financially able to live on our own
WHEN ME AND MY HUSBAND CAME TO THE LORD WE WERE NOT MARRIED. …WE WERE AT THE TIME IN SIN,DRUGS ALCOHOL,EVRY POSION THAT THE ENEMY CLD BRING OUR WAY FOR DESTRUCTION. WAS PRETTY MUCH OUR LIVES…TILL ONE DAY WE WERE DONE WITH EACH OTHER AND READY TO GO OUR SEPERATE WAYS..AND THAT NEXT DAY A LADY SPOKE TO US AND TOLD US TO QUIT RUNNING FROM GOD…THAT MOMENT WE BOTH GAVE OUR LIVES TO THE LORD AND INSTANTLY BY HIS GRACE WE WERE DELIVERED FROM ALOT OF THINGS…WE MADE A CHOICE TO SERVE THE LORD WITH ALL OUR BEING…WE LIVED IN THE SAME HOUSE BUT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD BECAME MORE INTIMATE…AND WE WAITED TILL THE LORD MADE IT POSSIBLE FOR US TO BE MARRIED. ..SWEETIE GOD HONORS A RELATIONSHIP THAT MUCH MORE WHEN U MAKE A CHOICE TO PUT GOD FIRST REMAIN FAITHFUL TO THE THE FATHER AND U WILL SEE HOW MUCH STRONGER YOU AND YOUR FIANCES RELATIONSHIP WILL BECOME…TAKE TIME TO PRAY TOGETHER GET INTO GODS WORD TOGETHER. ..LET GO. BE YAS ALL IN ALL…GOD BLESS YOU SISTER
My sister it’s still wrong since you’re living together as a family when you’ve not be properly recognized by God as such. The Bible says in Philippians 4:19 that God will supply all our needs. He cannot do that when you’ve not given Him the chance to. Try God, He will not fail you!
I just got out of a 8 year relationship just 3 months ago we know that’s it is not right but hoping it going to work out I praise God that God worked it out for me as one reply said I will wait on my Boaz. Thank Daughters of Devotional for that message it just strengthing me more ha ve a blessed day women of strength and courage
I was in a situation like this. When I started to put God the head of my life. All that changed I have to please God first. Me and my husband both know the Lord and we live for Lord we pray together we study together we go to church together
I have a niece who has been raise as a Christian. Shes involved in church and goes to church with her boyfriend and they just moved in together. She knows better. Shes so afraid to lose him. I want to speak to her about it but my family who believe in God but are not born agian wont let me. I try to leave it in Gods hands but im so worried….should I still say something to her?
I suggest that you make it a matter of Prayer. be still know that He is God and if He has the word for you to share He will give it to you.I will say after having gone through many struggles and a marriage of 23 years that has ended in destruction ..starting a relationship off in that way is definitely not the way to go . if she is living with him because she doesn’t want to disappoint him then in the long run she may be living a life that will end in disappointment for her!!!. I moved in with a man with whom i had a child with. we married I became a Christian we raised our children in church.many of them are active within a church and hold positionshowever 5 years ago…it was all thrown away by The Wiles of the devil. I learned so many things about myself after that separation and divorce. I have been alone for 5 years which is something I have never been. and in that five years I have come to know that I was not the person God wanted me to be in that marriage. Now completely surrendered to God. I could never be completely surrendered to God because I was always too concerned about not upsetting this man. let me just tell you God has blessed me so He has reunited me with the person that He created for me. which is the person that I was married tobefore I allowed Satan to move in and be distracted into an affair which turned into the 23-year marriage which was not all bad but it started in the wrong way ended terribly but what Satan meant for bad God took for good. so many people do not understand because they think of things in the world way. I will join with youin prayer for your niece if this person truly loves her with the love of Christ you will not ask her to live with him until they are married. andit is better to make these decisions now then to be involved not letting God have full control and in all ending in years to come.
Pray for your niece, but also let the Holy Spirit lead you into the right things to say to her. The Bible says he who sees evil and does not talk about it is equally guilty. God bless you and give you that boldness. She may end up hating you but one day she’ll thank you. Just caution her in love.
Wow I just told my friend yesterday that because I love GOD and love him too that I want to do it right. God’s way because I want to honor god and honor our bodies and wait until marriage. I wasn’t even sure what he was gonna say, I want him to be willing to aND in agreement with me but regardless of his choice that’s what I’m sticking too! ๐
Amen!
Thank you Lord for your truth. I know you require for me to live life that’s pleasing to you. I’ve been through past experienced which was heart broken, and took the stand to wait on your timing God. You’ve taught me how to wait so I’m striving and is committed to do so Lord
AMENโก
A very hard subject to discuss but Very True.
I am in a relationship just not so pleasing to God he’s married but been separated for a couple years I need prayer someone please pray for me it’s hard.
I certainly do not mean to say this to hurt you but there is no middle line he’s either married or not married and as long as he is marriedhe is not free to be with anyone yes it is hard but having lived a life and made choices that was so not God’s Directionthe pain of later years may be a whole lot worse than just letting go now. whether he plans to get a divorce or not get a divorce he is not a single man. I will absolutely keep you in my prayers. I will say as hard as it may be you must seek God. I’ve been there I know it’s hard but let me tell you the best thing that could ever happen is for you to just give all to God. if he has someone for you he will put them in your life even if it is this person that you speak of if it is something for God’s will then he will work it out but for nowthe best thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation
Good afternoon My Sister’s,
just wanted to say I so too can relate to this message from GOD. Me and My now Husband live together off and on for 7years been marriage 5 years and let Me
tell y’all wasn’t nobody mad but the devil !! Oh but GOD who is faithful will keep what He joined together. Trust GOD and know a threefold cord is not easily broken!! Still standing strong and as long as GOD is the center of it, it can’t and won’t fail trust that My sisters !! To GOD b tha glory for it all!!
It does not always end in marriage sisters, when you live with a person and eventually get married, you and your spouse still need to confess that sin to God because it means the marriage did not start out the right way. God bless you all.
Some times l wonder why God had to allow us to make our own choices. like one of my sisters said, l wish there is no option regarding our worship of God. Marriage is one such situation. When God approves of ur partner though challenges arise, He always comes through for us. His word says that ” His ways are not grievious” Adhering to His ways may seem difficult but its proven to be the best. My parents were not the best of example growing up. However, l resolved to do the right thing n by His grace l made it. It’s not been easy though; but His grace has always been sufficient!!!!
I never chose the right way, and every time i would lose. I had to choose life, and choose to let go of harmful deceitful relationships. I have been single now for almost 4 years, and it has been more peace, and i have learned to love myself enough to not go back again to that way of life. I can say after all the trials i had to accept my part, acknowledge the decisions i made, and know that God alone delivered me. Be reminded of who you are in Christ. He gives us a new identity that no man can take away.
Amenpraise the Lord hallelujah thank you Jesus
Amen!
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Amen!!! Amen!!!
I’m a witness๐๐พ….
Trusting God and doing things God way People stop being in a rush to get in a relationship because God do not put people with married people so learn to love yourself and let God lead you in the right direction read his word daily study praying for all of my sisters and brother’s and remember it will never be right until you do right God’s word is real Amen
Amen
This word has stopped me in my tracks today. It happens just as the writer says and when that time comes when you start to feel uncomfortable it’s the spirit of God directing you. When that happened to me it was another year before my change came and I took it. In that time it cost me greatly and it was hard but God does not take you where He cannot reach you, even though for me it was over 5000 miles away in another country. My partner and I are still together and now doing the long distance thing rediscovering each other again and talking about marriage now. My sisters what ever God does He does it well and be assured that it will be for your good and His glory. Trust Him ๐
Amen!
I got the short end of the stick because I knew in the back of my mind there was no real love or commitment. The living together situation only satisfied his selfish desire to be uncompromisingly non-commital. In the process, the experience cheated me of my time, money and energy and gave me a heart of deep resentment. Victory! Its over. I sleep better now on my own… and wake refreshed each morning in the loving arms of a Mighty God. We deserve MORE sisters! Eve didnt get a “live-in” arrangement…she got a marriage and a husband and together they worked, and struggled to build a life. Thanks for the disclaimer about abusive relationships; its never ok to stay…you can’t win in that situation…ever. Blessings to all my sisters who hear the word of God today and heed to it. Be encouraged.
So true I experienced it. Not good the hardest part that I saw myself in the darkest place I ever been. It was tough. But thank God I seen the light in my darkest moments. He show me that I’m a child of God. Thank you Lord for always been there in my darkest moments. And thank you if I didn’t went thru this I wouldn’t been that strong women you made me. Thank you Jesus !!!!!
Thank you for this true message today. I’ve been there and it never works because it’s not God’s will. We got married. I sent this message to my sister to read hope it helps, I’ve told her months back. Thank you again for this word on today In Jesus Name Amen.
Thought provoking message. I have a family member who is an ordined minister, she had a lodger who she is now dating and still living in the same house, she says that they are living in separate rooms. They’re planning marriage next year. It’s not right but her mother is insisting that its ok.
DOTK๐ been there done that….was headed str8 to hell๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฅ and GOD SAVED ME ๐๐๐๐and my Husband too!!!๐ช๐๐ช The Chains fell off….๐๐๐๐๐๐๐and now We free!!! GRACE WINS!!!๐๐๐๐๐๐ฏ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐Right now๐Im standing in the Gap๐๐๐๐for all my Sisters and Brothers in CHRIST JESUS๐๐๐ make it right!!! MAKE OUR FATHER PROUD!!!๐๐๐๐๐๐๐AGAPELOVE๐๐๐๐๐
I stay with a man who do drug I try to stay with him to help him but I know I can’t help him like God can I don’t know why it hard to leave him but I do want to because his not right for me
Yes yes AMEN to each and one of you and families GOD is first then your relationship love Your God to the fullest his faithfulness will all be upon you I’m going to marry a beautiful women with 3 kids that i love so much like if there where mine same as me with 2 of my own who she loves like if there where hers just remember god love each and one of you just stay strong and in prayer with your self and with your partner that god has put in your life’s sorry i hacked in to my girls phone what can i say im love GOD BLESS YOU