You can't force love.

“Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings.” Psalms 17:8, NIV.

When it comes to love, you want the kind that comes naturally, not love that is forced. Maybe there’s someone in your life that you love a great deal, but they don’t feel the same way you do and it makes you want to change in order to keep them interested.

The thoughts in your mind may say, “I can make them love me. I can change and become whatever they want me to be. I can change careers, change my hair, get plastic surgery, have their child, leave everything I know and change the way I behave. They will love me; I just have to…” You shouldn’t have to change yourself to get love. If God loves you just how you are, anyone He sends your way will also love you just how you are.

At the heart of real love is acceptance. Anything you have to change to get, you will have to constantly change in order to keep. Love is most beautiful when it is unforced and not manipulated. Let love happen by God’s divine orchestration. Whatever He sends your way He will give you the grace and wisdom to handle. You may not be the apple of someone’s eye just yet, but you are surely the apple of God’s eye. You may not have a David Jonathan kind of friendship just yet, but you have one with God. He loves you in every state and in every season. He took off His priestly garments and wrapped you in robes of righteousness. You will never be able to reach the bottom of God’s love for you!

Until someone can love you even remotely close to that kind of love, honey they don’t deserve you.

Prayer: Father God, thank You for speaking to my heart. I know You love me. Help me know it in a deeper way. Deal with the deeper fears in me and shine your light on every false view I have of myself. I deserve real love and I trust You. In Jesus Name, Amen.

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19 thoughts on “You can't force love.”

    1. Thank you my sister my husband and l been married (18)yrs on MAY 19TH after meeting @ his mother’s 39th wedding anniversary for the first time never seen or know each other work with his cousin she invited me. That was on MAY 1st 1999 and we was married MAY 19TH 1999 (18 days) l know that was God we had more up than down the down was other people he is a wonderful Husband and my best friend getting ready to renew our wedding vowels thank you Lord

  1. I’m thankful to the Lord. My husband and I have been married almost 35yrs. He is my love and soulmate and I believe I am his. We have had many trials and hardships through the years, but our love for God has keep us. Please pray for us because the attacks have been great, from health to ministry to children and I just want God’s love and kindness to prevail to each other…Thank you my sister’s. I’m so grateful to Jesus for you. ❤

  2. U know it’s so funny because I’m not looking for love you can’t buy love nor make anybody love you I’m not looking I’m not trying, but I was being setup for a trap yes it hurts to me made a joke out of and mocked being locked upon like a movie episode with others to eyewitnesses I’ll never be able to forget I’m trying to forgive my heart is very sad it makes me grief why did it have to be me of all the people I don’t mess with anyone if I hurt anybody it’s myself I just want to be alone games ppl play with your mind I’m learning slowly, but I’ll make it through I’ve been betrayed so what the Lord will make away some how he holds my destiny!
    Ppl can’t help themselves I don’t care who you think you’re we all are going to die in go back to the dust I love me. …….

    1. God will see you through, one day at a time. He said in his word he will never leave us nor forsake us. Please stand on his word because his word will not be voided. God has the right man for you… please take your mind off your situation and focus on Gods word and read it daily and watch how he shows up in your life. 🙏🏾 Amen PW

  3. This spoke to me greatly this morning. I am in the second phase of My Life 50 plus and I was looking for love and you said it so well what I’ve been trying to tell people I’m not going to change for you which means you don’t love me period I have to share this with other people period I’m still waiting on that one who will like every curve juiciness that is me. Thank you for this ministry

  4. I am patiently waiting for my love, I will wait until My LOVING Father is done molding him just suitable, to love and adore me and patiently allowing God to mold me just for him, Thank You for the message❤

    1. Thank u so much, this message was the hammer on the nail. I thank God for yr divine gift to reach his daughters doing their transitions, n I thank u God Bless

  5. Thankful for the message and prayer. I desperately needed to read this post today. At 38 and single, I truly desire a committed, loving relationship. Patient but tirelessly waiting.

    1. Thank you lord for this message I trueky needed this and the prayer I been married twice and a third time is not a option I am a lovable caring supportive passionate women wanting to just be that person for a wonderful man that appreciates me for who I am and loves me as much as god does amen

  6. This blessed me in ways I can begin to describe. I’ve been waiting for a man of God to enter my life for some time. So, when I began a relationship, with a man of God, I thought my prayers were answered. However, I found myself biting my tongue to avoid conflict, becoming obsessed with fitness, keeping my hair long when I desperately wanted a fresh new cut….the list goes on. One day, I said to myself, “God, this is too much work just to be loved…I don’t do this for You!” That day…I realized that man was a blessing–some OTHER WOMAN’S BLESSING! I’ll continue to pray for the one I was tailor-made to love!

  7. Once again WOG/Prophet you spoke to my current situation I so needed this. I felt myself changing for a man that isn’t even saved. And I’m a Christian, I begin believing that he would change for me. But I found myself trying to change for him. I’m so done with that.Lord help me to see me the way you see me Amen!!!🙏🙏🙏

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