Let it go and focus on the good!

“May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy” Colossians 1:11, ESV.

He never takes me out
He doesn’t help out around the house
He never listens to me
He is always spending time with his friends
He never apologizes
He doesn’t make me feel appreciated

In being married for years and in counseling women, I have heard it all. I have said it all, and I’ve found the list can go on and on.

One day while trying to patch up a broken marriage, I told the wife to write down everything her husband was doing wrong. Her page was covered, front and back, with a long list of things. Then, I asked her to write down everything he’s doing right. It took her a long time to think of just one.

We can’t focus on the good when there’s unforgiveness in our hearts.

I remember one day I struggled to pray. Right in the middle of my prayer, I sensed unforgiveness in my heart and without much thought, I said, “Lord, I forgive my husband.” The moment I forgave him, I felt a release in my heart. Then God gave me the grace to love him and be patient with him. God sees and He knows when you have unforgiveness and resentment in your heart, and He won’t release His grace until you release your unforgiveness. It’s time to let go of all the hurt and disappointment you’ve been holding on to. It’s not worth your relationship with God, and it’s not worth your relationship with those you care about.

Instead of thinking all day on what your husband is doing wrong, think about what he is doing right.

He is a hard worker
He does what he can to help around the house
He has a relationship with God
He calls me to see how I’m doing
He lets me have the last slice of pie
He is trying to do better

Let it go and focus on the good.

Prayer: Father God, I thank you for speaking directly to my heart. Forgive me Lord as I forgive others. I let go of all unforgiveness, resentment and offense, and I receive your grace, your peace and your love. Help me learn how to communicate what’s bothering me, and be patient. Help me focus on the good. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

(Read Philippians 4:8)

10 thoughts on “Let it go and focus on the good!”

  1. Each I look forward to the devotional thoughts and prayers and I ‘m thankful for them bc most Devotionals I have had after a few days I stop reading them and before I know it a whole month has passed thank you so much God be Praised

  2. Thank you Father God for your words. I have let go and have forgive all my focus and praise is on the true and looking at the good and our relationship.Our God is so faithful.Thank you Jesus for you grace and your peace and my life and Jesus name Amen

    1. Thank you Father God for your words. I have let go and have forgive all my focus and praise is on the true and looking at the good and our relationship.Our God is so faithful.Thank you Jesus for your grace and your peace and my life and Jesus name Amen

  3. This spoke 2 me but when do you know to let the marriage go? Honestly both my husband and I were unfaithful but I’ve repented and asked for forgiveness while my husband is still “out on the world” and currently living with his mistress. He says he wants a divorce but doesn’t want to pay for one. I’m just ready to move on with my life. Any advice please?

    1. Hello Hannah, how often do you pray for your husband. Pray for to see the light of God, when he does I am sure he will come back to you. Let God guide you every step of the way.

  4. When i was young i used to tare up my husband with my complaints to my girl friends. The lord gently showed me that i wasnt being the person i claimed i wanted to be. Now i only speak good and worthy things about him. It was life changing. Praise Jesus he is worthy of our devotion

  5. DOTK…IM JUST IN TEARS RIGHT NOW…YETERDAY I MADE A DECISION THAT WAS VERY HARD…MY HUSBAND AND I SEPERATED….IVE CHOSEN TO FOLLOW THE LORD AND MY HUSBAND HAS HARDENED HIS HEART TO THE LORD…SO MUCH HAPPENED HURTS, OFFENSES, AND NOT KNOWING WHAT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN FROM ONE DAY TO THE NEXT….I WANT RETORATION IN OUR MARRIAGE…IM STAYING IN A MOTEL AND ALL IVE DONE SINCE IVE BEEN HERE IS CRY OUT TO THE LORD…AND TODAY HE GAVE ME REVELATION COMMITMENT IS A COVENANT NOT A CONTRACT….ALL I DID WAS SEE ALL THE BAD…I NEVER TRIED TO SEE HOW HE WAS TRYING..I DIDNT GIVE THE SAME GRACE AND MERCY GOD GAVE ME….JESUS HAD A COVENENT TO FULLFILL WHEN HE DIED FOR US…AND THE LORD SHOW ME THAT THE SAME WAY HE IS THERE ETRNALLY IS THE COVENANT I AM TO HAVE FOR MY HUSBAND…YES MY HUSBAND HAS TO MAKE A CHOICE AS WELL…TO CHOOSE LIFE OR DEATH…U CANT SERVE 2 MASTERS…IM BELIEVING FOR HIS RETURN TO THE FATHER IN THE NAME OF JESUS…AMEN

    1. God bless you and your husband.
      May you grieve, yet find peace in your path with Our Lord.. With prayer and faith, there is hope your husband will find love and trust in Our Father.
      May patients be with you, and remember not to hesitate on time with The Holy Spirit.

  6. Yes, Yes LORD โ—๐Ÿ™ŒThank you for Your Lovingkindness toward US…๐Ÿ’–and the Power of Patienceโ—๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™Œ I Speak Life over my Husband๐ŸŽฉ and keep him covered in YOUR MIGHTY NAME, JESUS ๐Ÿ‘‘ WE Keep YOU in the Center ๐Ÿ”‘of it allโ—๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ† ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ˜„Although it took many years to get to this point, I’m just Grateful we are hereโ—๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™ Now that the kids are grown on their own, *I miss them tho*๐Ÿ’ฅWe have time to Focus on One another again ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’– and WE Focus on the GOOD here and now because we know there r no marriages in heaven โ—๐Ÿ’’
    DOTK๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒท๐Ÿ’Thank you for Sharing โ—๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’ŒBEAUTIFUL LOVEโ—๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’ž LOVE WINSโ—๐Ÿ†๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ‰๐Ÿ๐Ÿ“

  7. DOTK-this Devotional actually speaks to me in regards to my parents. It hurts right now to know and see the treatment is receive from them. Please pray WITH me that I will forgive them because right now it is very hard because of the hurt and pain on a daily basis as well as the stress from them. I know I must before I enter into my marriage with my fiancรฉ because I don’t want to take old baggage with me and create more mess and have more of a heartbreak and headache. This Devotional really hit home for me and as the young lady stated I’m in tears, but I THANK YOU JESUS for YOUR GRACE and MERCY to try one more time to get it right. HE loves me that much to die for me…a person who has low self -esteem and wanted to give up…HE died for me? I know I MUST push through and LOVE and FORGIVE just like my DADDY JESUS did. I LOVE you all and I will be praying with you all.

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