“The blessing of the Lord makes one rich, and He adds no sorrow with it” Proverbs 10:22, NKJV.
Here is understanding that can help you in life if you receive it:
Some people aren’t ready to change.
Some people don’t want your help.
If you can understand these two things, you will save yourself plenty of time and pain. Maybe you’re like me, you are wired to fix things, you’re wired to help things grow and make things better. But what do you do when they don’t want it?
I’ve learned over the years that you can bring a horse to water, but you cannot force it to drink. So many women are deeply depressed today because they gave all they had to someone that could care less. They bought cars, houses, clothes and shoes for someone that didn’t want their help. Now, their credit is all messed up and the man is gone out the door, the person is gone back on the streets, the relative ended up right back in jail, and the friend you tried to help went right back to the abusive boyfriend.
Listen, my sister, thank God you are wired the way you are, but you have to know when to back off and let God do the fixing. Let Him do the changing and let Him make the spiritual adjustments that you can’t see. Bless them, encourage them and yes, fervently pray for them, but you go on and live the life God has called you to live.
In the words of a DOTK reader, Alisa Blair, “When people don’t want our help, we must practice healthy boundaries. Not out of anger but tough love. Sometimes a person must feel their pain in order to address it. When we push to make them well, we mute their pain. They must feel it for themselves. BUT, we must be careful we aren’t making “helping” our identity. If we do that, then stopping leaves us feeling empty. When we feel empty, we try to “fix” so the cycle continues. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to back away and let them choose whether they want to heal.”
Now let’s pray: Thank you, Lord. You know how to get my attention. Whenever I find myself trying to help people that do not want it, it’s frustrating, tiring and expensive. I give every person to you. Only you can give them what they truly need. Help them to see your light and understand your love. Now, I pray you strengthen me. Replenish me. Restore all that I’ve given away or purchased out of good intentions, and help me to move forward and live the life you’ve called me to live. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
21 thoughts on “Some people don’t want your help.”
Amen and Amen again Thank you Father God for your strength and this encourage devotional and prayers. I Truly need to hear this My God again I say Thank you Father God and the name of Christ Jesus Amen ❤🙏🏽❤🙏🏽
Thank you JESUS!!! this is confirmation from YOU to me today. Bless your HOLY NAME! thank you my sister for such a timely devotion. Blessings to all.
What an on time word for the season of life I’m in. So much confirmation here. Thank you Jesus!!!
Thank you so much! I needed this word today and I thank Jesus Christ for using you to share this with us. Thank you
Well said. When people don’t want our help, we must practice healthy boundaries. Not out of anger but tough love. Sometimes a person must feel their pain in order to address it. When we push to make them well, we mute their pain. They must feel it for themselves. BUT, we must be careful we aren’t making “helping” our identity. If we do that, then stopping leaves us feeling empty. When we feel empty, we try to “fix” so the cycle continues. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to back away and let them choose whether they want to heal.
Amen and AMEN 🙌🏽 Thank you for your comment🙏🏽 what you said is so so true🙌🏽👏🏽🙏🏽 God bless you and your family 🙏🏽 breaking the cycle🙏🏽🙌🏽😇 Charlotte
Thank You Alisa, this was well said and also confirmation ❣️
This is so encouraging. I thank our Heavenly Father for putting these on your heart to share with us. Bless you my sister. In Jesus’name, Amen.
TY Lord for speaking to me thru DOTK ministries. TY for releasing me. And for pointing out to me the things I need to understand and for helping me to realize there are times I just need to let go. In you I trust Lord, in you I trust. Open eyes Lord. Open hearts. Help those that don’t want anyone’s help come to the realization that you Love them, and that you are there for them. Open their spiritual eyes to see that you are real and that you have a plan for them now and for eternity. To see that you’re an awesome God. Full of Love, Mercy, and Grace. 💕🙏🏽🌷
God let Your will be done in my life and in the lives of those that I try to fix. I surrender my all unto You 🙌🏽, and I pray that all my loves ones, friend, enemies will find their way to You🙏🏽😓🙌🏽 I place all my worries, anxiety, and frustration, and disappointments, in your hands, 🙏🏽😓🙌🏽👏🏽💯 I am letting go, and letting You God Fix them. Please Forgive us for our sins 🙏🏽😓🙌🏽 Thank YOU for Grace and Mercy 🙌🏽 Hallelujah Praise God and for loving us UNCONDITIONALLY ❤️ I know You God can work it out 🙏🏽😓🙌🏽👏🏽💯 Amen and AMEN 🙌🏽 ❤️🙏🏽❤️😇😓💯💖
I still thank you Pastor it’s been awhile since you heard from me but that’s exactly where I’m at I’m just coming out of relationship he didn’t want the help and I’m left hurt because I gave myself to the wrong person although I remain grateful I have learned a great lesson through this experience and thank you far confirming God’s word in this
In Jesus MIGHTY Name AMEN Thank You for the Word God I need to Here this, i Love You, Praises belong All to You 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤ I Pray to You God 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for this word! Have a good heart with healthy boundaries. Jesus…I pray for healing and restoration. Thank you Lord.
Thank you for your word today it is right on time for the season I’m in. Thank you so much for the confirmation. In Jesus name amen 🙏🏼Thank you Jesus ❤️🙌🙌❤️
I so needed to hear this today.
Thank you Lord and thank you Kesha for your obedience to the Lord in doing these devotionals. Forwarding to a friend of mine now!!
Today’s word is confirmation for me. Thank you my sister for always sharing such dynamic words of God!
THANK YOU LORD, Show me when to help and when to back up so that I won’t be an enabler. Lord help me not to block what you are trying to do in anothers life. Lord may there downfall be the reason that they get on their knees and cry out to you realizing that YOU ARE THEIR ONLY SOURCE OF HELP❣️ AMEN
Dear Sister Kesha, thank you for sharing your life & God’s words. You address life’s issues with love & much needed wisdom. God bless you & yours. 🙏😊
Thank You Lord For Such Encouraging Words. If A Lot Of Us Would Just Take Heed To God’s Word, Trust And Obey Than My God Will Continue To Make Away. I Will Continue To Step Back And Watch Him Move.. In Jesus Name, Amen. 💖💯🙏🙏
This is so good! Thank you fof the right words at the right time. This is hard for moms-of kids at any age. I’m struggling with my adult son. Could use prayers. Will be praying for those on here as well. ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for these encouraging and clarifying words. Knowing that it’s ok not to be able to “fix” everything or everyone, that it’s not an assignment that is ours, and we can sometimes be in the way, is an eye opening confirmation.
Praise GOD for his WORD!